Who are you? Isn’t that one of the hardest question to get when you go to an interview looking for a job. Who are you?
If you get that question, can you answer that question quickly? And if you can´t, neither do I. That´s a really hard question to answer in my opinion.
If you can why is it then so hard to get rid of your stuff?
I think if we take that question in to decluttering and ask our self Who are you? Shouldn’t it be easy then to get rid of all the stuff who don´t align with who we are today.
Because people change, right. Probably have you changed seen you was small just like any one else. Just look at the last 5 years. Have you changes under this year? Probably.
If we know who we are shouldn´t it be easy to get rid of all of the stuff who don´t align with who we are today.
Why is it then so hard to get rid of all our stuff? Maybe some of this will fit in to you.
For some people is it just that they think that there identity sits in the belongings. If you get rid of that you get rid of your identity. I think that we all deep inside us know that this is not the real story. You are you and you are not you because of all your stuff. Your identity sits in you not in your stuff.
Some people just feel guilt over the stuff. The guilt can sit in the case that you get the stuff from another person and you don´t want to brake there feeling but the person don´t like you because you save the stuff they gave you. They like you because you are you and if that is not the case then please get rid of that person in you life.
For other the guilt can sit in the money. You bought that peace and it cost you a lot of money. But do you really love yourself if you save something just because of money? Do you want someone to keep you just because of money? No probably not.
The feeling that I maybe going to need that later often kicks in for many people but you can´t save thing just because you maybe need them some day. You maybe need all of the things in the world because no one knows with pat you going to take years from now.
For some people is just overwhelming. It´s just to much and you don´t know where to start. Start small. If you pick up one thing is going to be better than if you leave that one thing together with all of the other things. One thing gonna be the start on your decluttering journey.
The stuff can also give us security and status. If we have all of this stuff we are in the top and we always gonna have what we need. I gonna say you something. If you ask a person who run away from a war that person gonna say that the only thing they absolutely needed was shoes on the feet because no one want to run away barefoot.
And I need to say this also even if it is quite hard. If someone is no longer in your life and you save all the pieces just to feel connected with that person, please don´t. That person don´t gonna come back again. Save the best peace, the best memory who make you happy and smile when you look at that peace. Bring joy in to your life, not sadness.
I hope this help you to get rid of a little more stuff than before. And remember, just ask your self Who are You and do this align with who I am today? Good luck.
Best regards